Child & Teen Dream Clean
A process for youth to clean their rooms on their own, without prodding, bribes or fuss!
Are you at your wit's end with your kids' or teens' messy rooms?
- You’re tired of telling your son or daughter to go clean their room, to pick up their toys, games and clothes, all the time – to no avail.
- You close the doors to your children's rooms so you don’t have to see their mess.
- After weeks of nagging, you end up going in and cleaning their rooms up yourself.
You've tried to motivate your children to be cleaner and tidier, sometimes with bribes and sometimes with threats, but nothing works. Chaos still reigns.
Yet you know that it is possible for the young to have tidy spaces. You have been to homes where their rooms are clean and tidy. Your sister’s or your friend's children seem to have a handle on their rooms.
Messes affect your relationships with your children and with your partner – they hurt your social life and your sense of well being.
I know that getting your offspring to clean up and organize their rooms can seem like an impossible task!
But I also know what you want to feel pride in your home, instead of embarrassment.
You want it to be beautiful and in good order. And you may be surprised to hear this, but your kids probably want the same thing, yet the more you nag, the more they mess up, just to be contrary.
Nobody wants to be the nag and no one wants to be lectured!
The chances are that what you've been doing is making everyone at home unhappy, while still not achieving the results you seek.
There is a different way.
Being tidy is a skill that can be learned!
If your kids learn how to clean their rooms in a way that minimizes the work and time spent on the task, they're gonna want to keep their rooms tidy.
MEREDITH (the mom):
"Months after Moni taught my daughter how to tidy up her room, she’s keeping it much tidier overall. The few things that are not in their place take only a couple of minutes to pick up.
Letting go of the plush animals she no longer cared for helped keep the bed better organized and made it easier to make the bed.
A few days after she cleaned up her room, we used the same process to clean up her closet together. It took us about half an hour and it was pleasant.
Before she learned this method, I was frustrated to see her room constantly messy, and I ended up nagging her, which I didn’t like. I used to feel embarrassed when we had company. I would end up straightening up myself, or I would close her door. I felt like I had to apologize to visitors for the state of her room.
It was so gratifying to see her cleanup by herself! It was nice to see her take the initiative and responsibility instead of asking for my help doing it.
The class gave her motivation without me having to find a way to put it there. She said it was really fun!
I’m satisfied, happy, and grateful that she has learned to tidy up by herself."
ALYSSE (the daughter)
"I used to feel embarrassed of how messy my room was. I couldn’t have friends over as often as I wanted. I felt like it was cramped, and it wasn’t organized so I couldn’t find anything.
The room feels bigger now and I can find stuff easily. It feels better.
Right after Moni taught me to tidy up my room I went to a class and I invited a friend over for a sleepover that night, and I didn’t have to worry about how my room looked.
I didn’t like it when my mom used to nag at me. Now I feel relief. I can have more fun in my room."
Your Time with Them is Precious!
These days, children and teenagers are so busy, you rarely get to spend any time with them. The last thing you need is to waste those precious moments screaming at them to go clean their rooms!
It Happens to Messy Moms and to Tidy Moms
If you’re a messy mom, you probably feel you don’t have the moral authority to tell your children to clean up their rooms. Maybe that’s true, maybe it’s not. Maybe you need to learn how to tidy up, too! However, messy children’s rooms are not exclusive to messy homes.
Tidy moms deal with the same problems.
If you're a tidy mom, you probably feel like you have failed your kids by not teaching them what your mom taught you.
Some of the children and teens I have taught to tidy up their rooms had very clean and organized moms, and some of them had very messy moms. It doesn't seem to make a difference whether the mom is tidy or not.
As I said above, being clean and organized is not a hereditary trait. It’s a skill than can be learned.
In most cases a healthy child or teen wants their room to be tidy more than you do, even if they would never admit it. They don’t want to be embarrassed by their room when their friends come over. They don’t want to be that “smelly kid” at school, because the smell of the dirty laundry has impregnated their clean clothes.
But the truth is that most parents are ill-equipped to teach their children to tidy up in today's world.
Tidying up a room today is not what it used to be. When you were growing up you had to deal with a few dozen items to pick up and put away.
These days, kids have hundreds or even thousands of items spread out on the floor and stuffed inside closets and drawers.
That can create overwhelm and lead to messes!
What would you do if your kids’s rooms were tidy? If they learned a method by which they can tidy up the most messy room in one hour the first time, and twenty minutes tops from then on?
Imagine the games you could play, the books you’d read, the shows you’d watch, while cuddling in a clean space.
What if they could do this on their own, without requiring reminders (gentle or otherwise) or help from you?
The Results I’ve Seen
I have taught this process to school-age children, pre-teens and teenagers.
I have taught it to moms who then taught it to their toddlers and preschoolers. Even the little ones loved it and went on to keep their spaces better organized from then on.
A Method That Works
An effective tidying up process needs to follow an order young brains can understand, by focusing only on one activity and one category of object at a time. It needs to be simple and easy to follow.
If you give your kids this gift, you will never regret it.
The Impact of a Dream Clean Routine
We think more clearly when things are tidy and clean. Homework gets done with ease, creativity comes out, and people play nice.
When kids find themselves able to take care of their own spaces with ease, they gain confidence and behave better, as contributing members of a household.
The healthy habits you help them create today will stay with them in the long term, making their lives easier as adults.
Are You a Good Mom or an Exceptional Mom?
Good moms do everything for their children. Exceptional moms teach their children to do things for themselves.
Your Feng Shui Guide
My name is Moni and I have made it my mission to take the confusion out of Feng Shui.
I help people turn their current homes into dream homes, where they can be happy with the people they love using a method I created called the Nine Steps to Feng Shui® System.
My signature method draws on my modern architecture training, ancient East Asian space arrangement techniques and the principles of alternative healing. The application of this method results in a home that is a supportive partner.
I work closely with my clients to make the right choices in creating a beautiful home, primed to make wonderful memories and flowing with good chi.
The result of studying or working with me is a life you love in a home that you're proud to show.
From this...
To this...
By themselves and with no nagging!
"Having a guideline to follow really helped my teens. It was great for them to get it from someone other than me.
Having my children’s rooms organized helps me to feel like I’m doing something right as a parent.
As I discussed with both my children your room should reflect who you are as individuals and now they’re organized I can see what kind of children my children are as well as what adults they are going to become."
- Paula, mom of Rowan and Ashley, in Alberta, Canada
Frequently Asked Questions
"We just bought our first home and didn’t have time to declutter before moving. Before my son cleaned up his bedroom suite using Moni’s process, I felt frustrated and negatively judgmental of myself for not being a better mom about teaching routines and habits. Now that he’s done it, I felt better about myself as a mom and relieved to be able to focus on other productivity things. Also, I was inspired to finally empty and post the two extra dressers we were keeping in his room – and they sold for my asking price the next day! Now we have more room to rearrange his room. When his room was a mess, I could tell that he felt tired and irritable. Now he's proud of himself, energized and pleased with the results."
- Annonymous, Mom in the US
BONUS LESSON!
Learn how to MOTIVATE your kid or teen by understanding their Five Elements Personality Type and how it relates to their Love Language.